Marriage and Family Series – Self Interest

Self interest is not to be our interest. – –

seeketh 2212 5719 not 3756 her own 1438

does not seek its own


4Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8Love never fails.

New King James


4Charity 26 suffereth long, 3114 5719 and is kind; 5541 5736 charity 26 envieth 2206 5719 not; 3756 charity 26 vaunteth 4068 3756 not 4068 5736 itself, 4068 5736 is 5448 not 3756 puffed up, 5448 5743 5Doth 807 not 3756 behave itself unseemly, 807 5719 seeketh 2212 5719 not 3756 her own, 1438 is 3947 not 3756 easily provoked, 3947 5743 thinketh 3049 5736 no 3756 evil; 2556 6Rejoiceth 5463 5719 not 3756 in 1909 iniquity, 93 but 1161 rejoiceth 4796 5719 in the 225 truth 225 ; 7Beareth 4722 5719 all things, 3956 believeth 4100 5719 all things, 3956 hopeth 1679 5719 all things, 3956 endureth 5278 5719 all things. 3956

8Charity 26 never 3763 faileth:

King James with Greek Reference Numbers



This may come across to people in our world today as a foreign concept, since self, self, self, seems to reign supreme. Yet, this is not what God intended when people are exhibiting love between one another. Biblical love is a beautiful and selfless power that melts the heart and opens the minds of most people.


In the Greek Language the meaning of “seeketh not her own” is as follows:


seeketh =

2212. zhtevw zeµteáoµ, dzay-teh’-o; of uncert. aff.; to seek (lit. or fig.); spec. (by Heb.) to worship (God), or (in a bad sense) to plot (against life):- be (go) about, desire, endeavour, enquire (for), require, (x will) seek (after, for, means). comp. 4441.

We should not be of the mindset that we deliberately plan how we can bring about what we want or desire. We should instead be thinking about what another would want or desire. That is what showing love is about. Yet, so often we are seeking to have our wants, needs, and desires met. Most of the time if we would stop thinking about getting our wants, needs, and desires met, they would be taken care of for us by God. Perhaps, we do not trust Him enough to take care of them for us.

4441. punqavnomai punthanoámai, poon-than’-om-ahee; which is strictly a demand for something due; as well as from 2212

The idea that people “owe” us something, now that is an ego buster. Why, do we think people owe us something? Are we so very important or special that we should get this and that done for us? What about what we owe other people? No, we do not want to talk about that or we do not owe anyone anything. If we believe we are owed something we need to check our ego at the door. Demand gets us little in life, God gets us lots.


her own =

1438. eJautou` heáautoáu, heh-ow-too’ (incl. all other cases); from a refl. pron. otherwise obs. and the gen. (dat. or acc.) of 846; him- (her-, it-, them-, also [in conjunction with the pers. pron. of the other persons] my-, thy-, our-, your-) self (selves), etc.:- alone, her (own, -self), (he) himself, his (own), itself, one (to) another, our (thine) own (-selves), + that she had, their (own, own selves), (of) them (-selves), they, thyself, you, your (own, own conceits, own selves, -selves).

This term “her own” is not gender specific as we can see from the definition. It is about male or female and their ideology of me, me, me; me first.

Note: In Scripture there are times when you see the word “him” or “her” and “man” used when the writer is referring to either sexes or all of mankind.


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