Marriage and Family Series – Love the Foundation

Real love is not gazing into one another’s eyes.

It is gazing out into the same direction.


Let us begin by examining what love actually is; as love is the foundation on which most marriages and families are built.


1 Corinthians 13:4-8


4Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8Love never fails.

New King James


4Charity 26 suffereth long, 3114 5719 and is kind; 5541 5736 charity 26 envieth 2206 5719 not; 3756 charity 26 vaunteth 4068 3756 not 4068 5736 itself, 4068 5736 is 5448 not 3756 puffed up, 5448 5743 5Doth 807 not 3756 behave itself unseemly, 807 5719 seeketh 2212 5719 not 3756 her own, 1438 is 3947 not 3756 easily provoked, 3947 5743 thinketh 3049 5736 no 3756 evil; 2556 6Rejoiceth 5463 5719 not 3756 in 1909 iniquity, 93 but 1161 rejoiceth 4796 5719 in the 225 truth 225 ; 7Beareth 4722 5719 all things, 3956 believeth 4100 5719 all things, 3956 hopeth 1679 5719 all things, 3956 endureth 5278 5719 all things. 3956

8Charity 26 never 3763 faileth:

King James with Greek Reference Numbers

Charity —-

This is the word used in the King James Bible meaning love. Love is used in the New King James Bible. In going back to the original language, we must reference the words selected originally for the King James Bible. Again, in this case the word was charity.


Charity in the original Greek language is referenced using the number 26 and comes from the Greek word referenced using the number 25. It also is traced back to several other words, which are attached to its FULL meaning. Here are their meanings in the original language.


Ponder the meaning of these words for a bit. Then read the notes which follow.


Charity aka Love =


from 25; love, i.e. affection or benevolence; spec. (plur.) a love-feast:— (feast of) charity ([-ably]), dear, love.


Here they use the term love-feast. Feast being the operative word. When we think of feasting, we think of just indulging to overflowing. Therefore, this type of love is an overflowing type of affection and benevolence. Benevolence, being basically good works toward another. Our love for our spouse should be, based on this type of love, overflowing with good deeds toward him or her and affection shown to them.


(much) [or comp. 5689]; to love (in a social or moral sense):— (be-) love (-ed). comp. 5368.


Think for a moment about a moral sense of love. Moral to be honorable, proper, decent, honest, ethical, good, just, etc. none of which smacks of self-indulgence or self-satisfaction. There is a sense of being and doing what is proper in God’s sight. Based on His ideas and principals not our own.


from 5384; to be a friend to (fond of [an indiv. or an obj.]), i.e. have affection for (denoting personal attachment, as a matter of sentiment or feeling; while 25 is wider, embracing espec. the judgment and the deliberate assent of the will as a matter of principle, duty and propriety: the two thus stand related very much as 2309 and 1014, or as 2372 and 3563 respectively; the former being chiefly of the heart and the latter of the head; spec. to kiss (as a mark of tenderness):— kiss, love.


We are to have a sense of attachment to the one we love. Be his or her friend and with our wills chose to befriend and embrace him or her. With a sense of duty attached to that friendship and affection. Duty does, whether the person feels like it or not. Duty is not a bad word as some have made it to be. Duty carries us through those times when our feelings fail us. Deliberate choices, made with our head and our commitment, not subject to the wounds of the heart. Make a deliberate choice to kiss your spouse, to love him or her, to fulfill your duty to them.


5689 a prim. root; to breathe after, i.e. to love (sensually):— dote, lover.


Here we see the sexual side of the equation. We are to have that sense of sexual attraction toward the person God has chosen for us. We should not either deny this fact or deny our spouse expression of that fact. God created love between a husband and wife to be sensual and sexual and this is nothing we need be ashamed of, in any manner.



prop. dear, i.e. a friend; act. fond, i.e. friendly (still as a noun, an associate, neighbor, etc.):— friend.


Again, we see the need to be a friend. To actually act friendly toward the man or woman in our life. Let us ask ourselves this question. Are we as friendly to him or her as we are the people we meet each day?



Next we will take a look at the characteristics of that love [charity].


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